Well another milestone of sorts has been passed.
At some point in the last couple of days we had our 1200th visitor.
I can't believe that there has been that many people stopping by.
I know that Mary stops by almost every day I just need to teach her how to leave comments.
Thanks to everyone for stopping by I appreciate it.
This picture was taken at a logging camp in Sweden. It shows the roads leading into what remains of the forest. Its not photoshopped this the view from the air.
With the Gay Marriage debate in Canada finally put to rest, the debate is heating up among our friends. Last year while Mark and I were on a holiday with two other couples that we have been friends with for years, the marriage question came up. Okay I brought up the marriage question if were going to be honest. I wanted to see what the other couples were thinking. It was an even split. First of all a bit of history, Mark and I are the "newest" couple at 13 years the other two have been together about 17 years and 25 years approximately. I was really surprised by the fear that the discussion brought out. I have always seen myself as being married at some point, but it was only in the past few years tha
t it became a legal option, and took on more relevance for me. I have discussed marriage with Mark to some degree and he really does not want to get married. I don't think that it has anything to do with our relationship, at least I hope not, but he always tells me that its just a piece of paper. I won't go into all the reasons that it's not just a piece of paper as that's not the point of this rant.
Currently as a common law couple we share all the benefits of a married couple in the eyes of the law as well as our respective employers. The company that Mark works for and I used to work for is a very progressive employer and offered domestic partner benefits almost fifteen years ago. This was a time when there was no other legal option for gay and lesbian couples other than a common law situation. Now that there is an option, how long until companies start insisting that employees be legally married to continue to receive these same benefits. I don't think its a huge leap to make. Here is a link to an article from the U.S. where the trend has already begun.
Just something to think about while were on the quest for equality.
You maybe already familiar with the story of Allison Quets the Florida women who kidnapped her twins from their adopted family. She came here to Canada, Ottawa specifically because she head that we were a child friendly city, what ever that means. Here is an excerpt from the Ottawa Citizen today from the people who have been hiding her for the last few days.
Her Ottawa-area supporters are adamant that Ms. Quets poses no threat to the twins. On the contrary, they say, she's an honest, sincere woman who loves her children and didn't intend to give them away in the summer of 2005.
Ms. Thompson broke down at one point while seated beside her husband, recounting their experiences with Ms. Quets this past week.
"I'm just amazed," she said. "She works so hard and it's impossible to explain as to why a mother who was with her children has to prove that she's the one who should be with them.
"She didn't do anything wrong other than loving them."
Ms. Quets has stayed at their one-storey home since Thursday night, resting and regaining strength after six days in Ottawa police custody.
Where do I begin....
She didn't do anything wrong other than loving them??????
She kidnapped them and fled the country. That sounds pretty damn wrong to me.
I feel bad for this woman, who made a very difficult decision to give her children up for adoption, and now regrets what she had done. Except that she had nine months to think about what she wanted to do and decided to give her children away. What about the adoptive parents, they followed all the legal procedures, and lets face facts its not easy to adopt children in North America. These people that think there helping this woman, but I don't think they realize the harm there doing.
What do you think people would be saying about this kidnapping if it was the father of the twins that had snatched them from their legal family. I promise you it would be a very different reaction than the one your hearing now. They would be calling for his head on a plate.
What about all the future adoptive families.
As a person that has contemplated adoption, what kind of message does send to potential families? You can follow all the legal procedures and have all the details in place then two years after you have raised this child(ren) the birth mother can change her mind and say I want them back...
Or worse steal them.
I will be following this case closely I think that it could create a very dangerous precedent.
These children belong to the adoptive family now.
As much as I can sympathize with the birth mother who now regrets her decision to give her children away. There is no justification for her to break the law and steal these children away from their legal parents.
If she had followed the rule of law and proceed to fight this in the courts I would have been a bit more sympathetic. The fact is though, were talking about a woman in her late forties who had plenty of time to think about what she was doing. This is not a confused, scared, sixteen year old girl. This women was an educated person who had to now exactly what she was doing. Then to try and blame it on postpartum, depression which is an insult to all women who has suffered from this debilitating disease is unconscionable. You do not suffer from this before you give birth only after.
I hope that this women is given an appropriate sentence as well as some psychological counseling.
That and a strong message is sent to adoptive parents that their rights will be upheld.